You should not feel sorry for yourself but
then something that happens naturally to you (sometimes) and it is unavoidable;
you should know a secret regarding self-pity that if it happens sometimes it is
not bad! Yes, I said it right there (it removes all the negative emotions from
inside you). The problem occurs if this phenomenon starts occurring often or
you go into a state of self-pity for like ever!
Self- pity is A Vicious Circle
Self-pity is a state where you start
feeling that you are not worthy of the things that you have or can have. You
constantly dwell in the past and remain there. Even if something good happens
to you, you reject that happiness because you think that it is only temporary.
When you start getting these kinds of negative feelings, you will send negative
signals in this universe, and it will worsen the situation even further.
Sooner, without you even noticing, you will enter into the vicious circle of
negativity and things will never become positive for you. This is one very big
reason why you should never get into the habit of feeling sorry for yourself.
Increase of Negative Perceptions
When you start feeling sorry for yourself,
you start looking at things with negative connotations. Everything in this
universe brings something positive and something not positive (see what I did
there; did not use the negative connotation). When you start feeling sorry for
yourself, you start seeing only the negative aspects of anything. Every
proposal starts sounding more negative than positive, once you go into the
self-pity mode. You start disliking and push away all those people who want to
help you out of your sorry state. Again, this is a big-time reason to do
something about your sorry state.
Gratitude is the state when you are thankful
for the smallest of things in your life. But, you stop feeling that when you
are in a state of sorry. In this state, you start cribbing a lot about
minuscule things. For example, it rains, you complain about getting wet and
when it is sunny you complain of getting tanned in the hot sun; basically, you
crib no matter whatever the situation is. Because of this habit of yours, other
people start cutting you out of their lives (nobody wants to hear your crib all
day long!). Do not do this to yourself and the people around you.
When you catch the signs that you are going
into the self-pity mode, you are supposed to act at that very moment. I would
suggest you start with some kind of physical/mental activity like yoga, gym,
and meditation. Morning physical/mental activity pumps a lot of happy hormones
in your body which keeps your mood elevated for the whole day.
To conclude, I would just say that you or
anybody out there does not deserve to be in a sorry state because every single
person is unique with immense possibilities; you just have to find that one
thing which makes you happy when you are low and you should cling onto that
thing for a lifetime to come.
Born In the year 1883, Napoleon Hill is a
known American self-help writer; he is also known for his bestseller book
‘Think and Grow Rich’, and millions of people bought this book. The book is
amongst the top 10 bestsellers to date. You would come across a lot of books
that talk about motivation but the way Napoleon Hill has explained the secrets
and steps to reach your dream is comparable to none. There are some key
takeaways mentioned in the book, which if applied diligently, will prove
It Should All Be Natural
In my other article (What are the laws of
success) I have talked about the laws/steps that will help you in becoming
successful. It says that you need to have a burning desire and a definite goal
in life and then only you will succeed. However, what you need to understand is
that all the aspects of the secret should come to you very naturally. In other
words, you should not be reminding yourself every now and then that you are
supposed to have a burning desire to reach your goal; you should be actually
burning with the desire on a continuous basis. This desire should become your
parallel self with a very definite aim of reaching a particular point. Napoleon
Hill wanted everybody to understand this particular fact that it all has to
become your natural self (the real secret).
Napoleon Hill has talked about the oneness
in his book. I will try and express my understanding of the statement here
(which by the way has helped me reach my goal). You will have to think of
yourself and this universe as one single unit. You are not supposed to separate
yourself from this universe. So, by default, everything in this universe (the
people, the things, etc) is a part of you. What affects others will affect you
and vice-versa. This means that the way you treat other things of this universe
you will be receiving the same thing in return; if you are giving out
negativity you will be receiving negative results and if you give out
positivity you will receive positive results!
If you are still with me, then you would
have understood that this universe just reacts to your own doings and thoughts.
Period. So, it is very easy to turn things around in your own favor. All you
have to do is start creating positivity around yourself. Treat others the way
you would have wanted others to treat you. Give back to the society so that it
returns to you multifold times. Make this world a happy place to live so that
you can live happily in this world. See, it is all so simple and yet it gets
missed from all the eyes!
To conclude, I would just like to state that it
is all very simple but since your mind is stuck on the fact that it is
difficult, you feel that it is difficult. All you have to do is change the way
you look at things and that’s it. That’s the solution, right in front of your
The law of universe/attraction is
constant and there is no way that it is not working in your life; if the law is
not working in your favor then it is working against you, which is definitely a
reason to worry. However, the good thing about the law of attraction is that if
you work consciously, you can turn the course of events and make it work for
you. Let us identify the reasons why the law is not in your favor as of now!
Remove The ‘Not’ Factor
Let us say that you love to be punctual
at everything you do. Suppose you have a meeting at 10: AM on a rainy day and
somehow your alarm did not beep and you got up at 8:30 AM. You can still reach
the meeting on time provided you do not get traffic. Now, what is really going
on inside your head at this point in time? (You would be praying that please
there should be ‘no’ traffic) The thing is your subconscious mind,
unfortunately, does not understand the word ‘no’; it just understands the word
traffic. So if you see it mathematically, you are signaling the universe about
(no) traffic where the no word is silent; so basically you are asking for
traffic. So, how do you turn this around? You just have to turn the ‘no
statement’ into a positively sounding statement like ‘I should witness free
Another big reason for the law not
working for you is that you have still not reached the state of ‘absolute
belief’. This is the state where you believe that you will be successful at
your sub-conscious level. If you still have any kind of doubt left in your mind
regarding the law or yourself, it will never work for you. The base of this law
asks you to have belief and when that is missing, nothing else matters!
Sometimes, your failure has got a lot to
do with your social circle and your surrounding and less with your own self.
Even if you are in a full state of belief there might be people around you who
say that the law does not work. It is their negative vibrations that are
affecting your own progress. To achieve positive results in life, get rid of
all those people and things that tell you that you cannot achieve your dream.
The Illusion of Not Working
Do not fall into this trap! Sometimes,
it becomes impossible to connect the dots of life. Your life might be taking
you in the direction which you think is not good for you (as of now) but in
reality, the universe knows differently! You might get a feeling that the law
is not working for you and you stop believing in it, but that is not the case
in reality. My suggestion to you would be to just go with the flow and not
resist. Rest, the universe will take care of you!
If something is not
working then you need to find the reason why it is not working for you and turn
it around in your favor.
I am sure I have your attention with the
title itself where your mind is interpreting it as ‘if I follow some law then I
might become successful’. Well, you are only partially right here because this
statement means that if you follow the laws of success you will ‘definitely’ be
successful. Further in the article, you will get to know what laws you are
supposed to follow.
Law of Definite
What success means to you (and do not give
me answers like satisfaction, happiness, etc)? What do you want to accomplish
physically which you would define as success? It could be, owning your own
business, becoming CEO of a company, meeting your soul mate, becoming a
billionaire, etc. Define what success means to you in a detailed manner as possible.
This will send a clear signal in the universe as to what do you exactly want in
life. Getting this clarity is like reaching the first step in becoming
Law of Belief
You can question me that you know exactly
what you want in life but you are still not getting there; well to that I would
ask you, do you really believe that you are capable of achieving everything
that you desire for? If you think that what you dream off is out of your reach
then how do you expect this universe to believe in your dreams? At first, it is
you who will have to have that belief that whatever you ask from this universe,
you will get it, no matter what. I know you cannot reach a state of 100% belief
but you will have to try to increase the belief with every passing day; the
stronger your belief system the earlier you will see positive results.
Law of now Acting
You will be shocked by what I am supposed
to say next, but still with me till the end! While pursuing the road to success
you are not really supposed to worry about the road and the direction. For
example, let us say that you want to become a millionaire by the age of 25. But
to achieve this, you do not have to plan your career and walk on that road. You
are not supposed to deliberately plan anything or change the course of your
life. You just have to keep doing what you are doing with the belief of
becoming a millionaire. The universe will put you on the road of success all by
itself. It will create situations in life, which will act as a catalyst in you achieving
success (I know it all sounds a bit magical, but this is the only truth)
Law of Not Resisting
When you ask something from this universe,
the universe creates a plan for you and provides you situations that will help
you. So, as a person, it is your duty to not resist the changes happening in
your life because those changes are good for you.
As I have always said, the universe has its own
plans for you; if you believe in the universe just go with the flow and
everything else will be taken care of! Feel the magic happening around you!
Would you believe me if I tell you that it
is your mindset that is the only hindrance between you and massive wealth?
Well, you will have to! It is your own mindset regarding money and an abundant
lifestyle that is not letting you progress in life. If you direct your thoughts
and energy positively towards getting money then you will have money. There are
certain laws of the universe that can help you build a positive thought about
your limiting belief
When you think about people with massive
wealth (like Bill Gates) do you think that these people are lucky to have so
much wealth and that you would never have so much wealth in life? If yes, then
that is your problem right there! You, even in imagination, do not want to
think and believe that you are worthy of immense wealth. You will, at first,
will have to convince yourself that even you can amass wealth. You just have to
see money as something available to you in abundance and not something scarce!
Try this for some time (but with conviction) and you will see money flowing in
Believe in the universe; believe in the
fact that the universe is ready to give you what you want, but you will have to
ask for the same and believe in the fact that you will definitely get to your
dream (money in this case) no matter what. You can strengthen your belief by
visualizing money with your closed eyes. Imagine you living lavishly in a big
house and working as a promoter of a successful brand. You will start feeling
good from within and send positive signals in the universe. Trust me, sending
this positive signal in the universe is all that matters; the stronger your
signal the higher your probability of amassing wealth.
If you have started believing in the law of
universe/ law of attraction then you will be amazed to know that you are the
one who decides the timeline in which you will acquire wealth! Yes, it could be
in a day; however, there is a catch with the rule. Let me take this moment to
explain this to you. Anything can be available to you, even in a fraction of
the moment, if you are able to think about receiving that particular thing with
every fiber of nerve present in your body.
You will need immense knowledge of your own energy and its flow in the
right direction. That is why I have always talked about ‘conviction’ in your
I cannot stress enough on the fact that
meditation is an accepted technique of increasing your mental strength. Once
your mind becomes strong enough, it will work in sync with the laws of the
universe and will work in your benefit.
At the end of this article, I would just like to
say one thing that does not make a big deal of money. It is easy to amass
wealth; you just have to believe in the easiness of gaining money!
You must not have known me as someone popular like a Hollywood actor or so but Im pretty sure that what I’ll be sharing to you guys in my blog will help you widen up your imagination and will help you embrace life positively.