Rainbows are the wondrous brush of colors on the sky that has gone through the stormy clouds. It holds up the hope of a new beginning after a hideous adversary. And such is life.
“It’s not the happiness that makes thankful. It’s gratefulness that makes us merry.”
Happiness is a great feeling. But sometimes, too much glee loses our perspective in the tiniest beauty of life. When a person one day has won the lottery, they feel extreme elatedness, saying millions of thanks. But when the feeling of happiness from winning dies down, they start focusing on what they want, what they should have, and how they should spend. Amidst it all, you will one day feel unsatisfied when things are no longer the way you expect it to be- feeling less happy, less grateful.
A grateful heart, however, is more focused on what they have. Thankful for every ounce of rice, to wake up and feel the morning dew, and be able to breathe and see the wondrous creations. Gratefulness is not simply a thank you, it is the feeling of contentment towards things you currently have and less focus on what you don’t have. Happiness is what makes a person contented with they have and can only be achieved by a thankful spirit.
“Gratitude is what makes the best medicine”
I’m sure you have probably heard about having laughter as the best medicine. Laughter is a result of extreme amusement that emanates from a joyful heart. It is a powerful immune booster that helps us in warding off various types of diseases. And who produces laughter more than those that have a heart that is contented? And who lives a contented life? Those who live with gratitude. Living with a grateful life creates control of anxiety over things you don’t have but others do.
Take a look at the people living in the slums. Children play in the dirt with smiles on their faces, elder people spend blissful afternoons gossiping over neighbors, laughing at almost anything. A simple life. But have you noticed who gets sick with chronic and harmful diseases such as cancer? Is it those living in the slums or those living in mansions?
“Gratitude is more than words of thank yous, it’s an act of giving back and accepting everything as a blessing.”
It’s no question that we all experience asperities when perambulating this life’s journey. But the ability to be grateful even while you experience difficulties requires mental toughness.
Do such a person exists? Who in this world can ever be happy with difficulties?
Acceptance over denial. When we met difficulties, we normally deny the challenges, saying we don’t deserve something like such. But a person who can accept the difficulty as a blessing, it changes your viewpoints in life. You see, having a thankful heart is a dire situation that gives you enlightenment deep within your soul that you can understand the purpose of each adversary, accepting it as a blessing that will prove to be a useful experience in the future.
Gratefulness is a miraculous health booster that doesn’t require money and a lot of time. Being thankful is a gift that imbues us with a better perspective, an optimistic outlook for a better living. Life will always be a constant struggle and not only for you but for each of us.
Be Grateful for All Your Life’s Events
Some days can be clouds and rainbows but some days can be like a raging storm-challenging you at your wit’s end. It is easy to be grateful for being joyous and worry-free but to thank a melancholic day? Food is best enjoyed after working hard, so is success more meaningful after the hundreds of failures you won over. Being thankful that you have experienced struggles makes you a stronger person that you can be grateful for the rocks life has thrown at you.
Stop Looking at What Could’ve Been
Regrets are natural thoughts as we live through life and make bad decisions. The lingering feeling of pain after regretting what happened will create the thoughts of, “If I have only chosen to do the opposite, that might’ve been the result and not this”. Regret is a natural occurrence that serves to teach us a life lesson and not something we should dwell upon. Let go of your negativities and be thankful for having the experience of learning new things. Let this be a chance for you to rethink your decisions and re-plan your steps for the goal you wish to achieve.
Be Thankful for all the People Around You
People are all unique, people have different experiences, thoughts, perspectives, and different lessons to give you. People, including those who emits the aura of negativity, also brings us lessons; their thoughts and experiences could offer us a better understanding of what we can do to create a difference in our lives and take their experiences as a lesson for us, too. Thanking the friendly neighbour, the cashier in the grocery store, the colleague who helped you out, and even that grumpy stall owner will bring you a different kind of optimism as you feel immersed in positivity. Also, being thankful to people could result in a more meaningful relationship as people seek to be appreciated.
Be Grateful for What’s Around You
From the ants collecting crumbs, the bugs spreading pollen, the butterfly that provides beauty, the trees that give the feeling of serenity, and to the air that you breathe, be grateful. A grateful person is more appreciative of life and sees the beauty and opportunity that lies beneath a strain. A thankful heart marvellously affects the body as it reduces stress and increases your tolerance making you more patient and tolerant of unfavourable behaviours and incidents. And of course, don’t forget to always thank yourself for fighting hard and being courageous when life gives you adversities. The feeling of gratitude reduces toxic emotions and gives us a positive outlook with better well-being. A stronger mentality, higher self-esteem, improved health, and an empathic heart is the miracle of a grateful heart.
Positive thinking is not just about
thinking but has more to do with the attitude you carry in life. Are you the
person who looks at the negative side of a situation or a positive side? It is
with this positive attitude you can achieve even the impossible in your life.
When you go through the life history of any successful person you will find
that that person has always allowed only positivity around him; these people go
as far as saying that positivity is the key to all kinds of success you want to
achieve in life.
No Sign of Stress
If you advocate positivity in life, you
will see every situation of life as a stepping stone towards success; you will
not get stressed with whatever life throws at you. When you keep stress at bay
you will be able to achieve success in life. Despite being in stress, you will
be able to think with a clear head in a situation of crisis; this will prove to
be a differentiating factor between you and the rest of your competitors.
No Effect on Health
Do you know that stress causes problems
like diabetes and high blood pressure (yes, they prove to be the trigger of
these two medical conditions in life)? Do not do that yourself, because if you
lose your health, you will anyways not be able to think with a clear head. To
become extremely successful you will need to have a solid brain that will come
if you take care of your health, which ultimately is a result of a stress-free
A Surge in Confidence and Self-esteem
Carrying an intimidating personality helps
you in most of the situation (yea, others will hate it!) If you are stuck in
some bad situation, it is only your confidence that can bring you out of that
situation. The main food of a confident personality is a positive attitude.
Only when you can see yourself in a positive light, you will be able to fight
your battles. When you come out of a bad situation, your self-esteem will be on
a high; others will be able to respect you and see you in bright light, only
when you see yourself in that position (basically when you have high
A General Sense of Happiness
Do you know what is missing out from the
life of all those people who take the stress? Happiness! They are not able to
enjoy anything in life; right from family time to their job, everything
irritates them. I would wish that nobody should lead this kind of life where
despite having all the means you are not able to carry a heart-felt smile in
Think Beyond Money
In a state of stress, all you can think
about is money but when you remain positive, you find a purpose in life. Find a
motive of your life; such a motive where money becomes the outcome of life and
not the purpose of life.
To conclude, I would say that this life is worth
living to the fullest and that can truly happen only when you bear a positive
attitude in life.
You should not feel sorry for yourself but
then something that happens naturally to you (sometimes) and it is unavoidable;
you should know a secret regarding self-pity that if it happens sometimes it is
not bad! Yes, I said it right there (it removes all the negative emotions from
inside you). The problem occurs if this phenomenon starts occurring often or
you go into a state of self-pity for like ever!
Self- pity is A Vicious Circle
Self-pity is a state where you start
feeling that you are not worthy of the things that you have or can have. You
constantly dwell in the past and remain there. Even if something good happens
to you, you reject that happiness because you think that it is only temporary.
When you start getting these kinds of negative feelings, you will send negative
signals in this universe, and it will worsen the situation even further.
Sooner, without you even noticing, you will enter into the vicious circle of
negativity and things will never become positive for you. This is one very big
reason why you should never get into the habit of feeling sorry for yourself.
Increase of Negative Perceptions
When you start feeling sorry for yourself,
you start looking at things with negative connotations. Everything in this
universe brings something positive and something not positive (see what I did
there; did not use the negative connotation). When you start feeling sorry for
yourself, you start seeing only the negative aspects of anything. Every
proposal starts sounding more negative than positive, once you go into the
self-pity mode. You start disliking and push away all those people who want to
help you out of your sorry state. Again, this is a big-time reason to do
something about your sorry state.
Gratitude is the state when you are thankful
for the smallest of things in your life. But, you stop feeling that when you
are in a state of sorry. In this state, you start cribbing a lot about
minuscule things. For example, it rains, you complain about getting wet and
when it is sunny you complain of getting tanned in the hot sun; basically, you
crib no matter whatever the situation is. Because of this habit of yours, other
people start cutting you out of their lives (nobody wants to hear your crib all
day long!). Do not do this to yourself and the people around you.
When you catch the signs that you are going
into the self-pity mode, you are supposed to act at that very moment. I would
suggest you start with some kind of physical/mental activity like yoga, gym,
and meditation. Morning physical/mental activity pumps a lot of happy hormones
in your body which keeps your mood elevated for the whole day.
To conclude, I would just say that you or
anybody out there does not deserve to be in a sorry state because every single
person is unique with immense possibilities; you just have to find that one
thing which makes you happy when you are low and you should cling onto that
thing for a lifetime to come.
About the Author
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